Self-Compassion for Working Moms

Did you wonder and worry if you were a good enough mom during your child’s first year of life? I sure did. As a working mom, do you constantly question if you are doing enough or doing it right? Me too.

Have you experienced guilt, shame, anxiety, and stress? And did you make mistakes and mess? Yep, me too.

High-achievers do and become a lot, and we can be very hard on ourselves and critical. There is an inner voice telling us that we can always do better.

I wish that I learned about the science of self-compassion way before becoming a parent. It is so valuable for all stages of life. I read Dr. Kristen Neff’s book on Self-Compassion 4-years ago and started doing self-compassion meditations.

Here is how you actively practice self-compassion as a working mom:

#1) Connect to Common Humanity - Remind yourself that we are all so similar and having this beautiful and challenging human experience. You are never alone. Connect to all the working moms in the world and feel their support.

#2) Self-Kindness - Talk to yourself in your head and out loud the way that you talk to your very best friend. Be supportive, kind, and show empathy and forgiveness. You can change your neural pathways and this will make you happier.

#3) Mindfulness - Practice formal and informal meditation and learn to notice your thoughts and observe your emotions and how you are physically. You are not your thoughts and the more you do this, the more self-compassionate you will become.

Self-compassion will improve your motivation, resilience, self-esteem, positivity, and empathy and compassion for yourself and others.

On a scale of 1-10, how kind are you to yourself right now?

You are enough.
Your kids love you so much.
Everything is going to be ok.

Tia